I was in EQ camp with Jo today. During the 2 generation forum, I got a chance to hear Jo’s inner voice and hear what her needs and desires are. I was surprised to learn that the reason she won’t share things with me was because she doesn’t like me to BB others about her matters. I explained to her that my small inner circle of friends on the BB are the ones that have been giving me emotional support over the years while I was struggling otherwise I will never make it through the many years of single parenting. However I told her now that I know this is her concern, all she has to do is tell me which issues are not to be shared. I promised I will respect her privacy for sure.
I was able to let Jo feel how I get worried about her when she is out late. I want her to be still asking me permission to go out instead of simply telling me that she would. I want to know which class she missed before the school emails me. I told her the 2 most valuable things about me that I wish she can learn are 1) is my selfless personality and 2) my high value for my family.
We even agreed on a regular monthly quality time dinner too. As long as we are both in town and no school or work schedule conflicts then we will have dinner on the 19th of each month starting Oct 19/08.
I am so glad Jo and I agreed to start building a closer relationship now when she is only 15 years old which is actually 15 years earlier than when my closer relationship with my mom started.
With the pace Jo is growing, I know pretty soon I will not have much left to teach her. However my goal is to be her best friend, one who will walk thru her path in life with her. Whether it’s good or bad, tough or easy, I will be there with her and for her….