Dec. 13/07 – Thi introduced me to Barry who teaches Emotional Quotient (EQ) classes in September 2002. There are quite a few different programs being offered here but they all deal with personal developments such as dealing with our own emotions, anger management, and relationships among people. I opted to start with the first course called Enneagram which is the study of the 9 main types of personalities. I find it interesting so I continued with other personal growth courses. I had always known money can not buy happiness. In order to feel complete freedom, I must eventually deal with my history, my many past hurts. I know this journey will be long but I have to start somewhere and I feel this is the right place and right time to start.
In the class last night, I confirmed with Barry the “list” of questions to ask your partner to find out why s/he loves you. He confirmed that if the person who professes to loving you is able to give you a list of reasons, then that means that s/he knows his/her “values” (which is a good thing because you do want to be with those that know their values well) instead of just saying s/he loves you because of who you are or saying that s/he doesn’t know why. This just means that he just wants to “capture” you (which is bad, it’s a form of attachment) but this ONLY applies to “LIKE” and has nothing to do with “LOVE.” Love is something else which starts from like but not all “like” can transform to “love.”
So I wasn’t totally wrong before when I said I don’t believe in “unconditional” love. Really what I didn’t believe in was “unconditional LIKE” which makes sense now.
So, yes LOVE can be unconditional but LIKE can not be.